First off, I’d like to say that I do not consider myself a designer or anything of that sort. I just like to make my house pretty for myself. I like entering a room and feeling completely at ease and happy over how it looks. I want a room to make my heart pitter patter just a bit. I’m not successful with tens of thousands of followers nor do I have a degree. I simply love the world of home decor and remember how hard it was to find myself amidst the endless amount of images and magazines out there.

When my husband and I first started building, I had NO IDEA what it was I liked. Architecturally, I loved the French country style. So the architecture of our first home is definitely reminiscent of that. Decoratively, I thought I liked what was super popular at the time. It took me about 3 years of experimenting and redoing room after room. I bought and returned furniture, rugs, artwork, until I finally figured out what it was that I personally liked. I spent hours pouring over Houzz, Traditional Home, Better Homes and Gardens, Architectural Digest, Pinterest, and Instagram. At first, my likes were all over the place. I liked the modern style and farmhouse and bohemian all at once! I bought 3 different couches until I finally found the right ones. I bought 3 different dining tables, 2 different beds, 2 different nightstands… you get the point. It wasn’t until I played around with all the different styles that I realized what I personally liked. You, however, can probably forgo all the buying and selling and redoing and find your own style in a less headache like way. It can be as simple as spending a good bit of time on Pinterest or other design platforms. After all of the experimenting, I noticed the images I kept repinning and favoriting were all in one the same. Suddenly a lightbulb went off and I thought, that’s it! I like this!

Nowadays I guess you can say that I like traditional mixed and modern. I love lush architectural features, like wall paneling, cornices, parquet floors paired with more modern elements like straight line dressers and abstract art. Of course, I’m not constrained to this style in particular but it is what I like at the moment.

In this little snippet you can tell how my bedroom style has changed. The traditional rug, light blue curtains, and tufted arm chair were very traditional and French country. Now our bedroom sports wall paneling, cornices, gold mirrors, modern lights, and a modern bed. I’m not saying what I have now is better, it’s simply what I like more.

So what should you do if you’re struggling to find out what you like?
1. Log into Pinterest or houzz, or find a magazine.

Observe which images you keep coming back to. Which rooms make your heart skip a beat? How many farmhouse style kitchens have you saved on pinterest over the forest green, modern kitchens? Which one dominates? Go with that one!

2. Find someone whose style you love.

I have two major influencers in my design life. One is the Gwen is phenomenal. Her home style is, in my eyes, perfect. Through her blog and Instagram, she showed me that design is what YOU like. Not your mom, sister, or neighbor. She’s also a phenomenal thrifter. I started to realize that I don’t have to empty my wallet at RH if I want a pretty home. I can look around other sites, thrift stores, and even yard sales. And if I like it, then I should take it.

Another phenomenal influencer is / Susan taught me the beauty of a moody room. She would embrace the original style of her home and allow it to shine. She has a great course on Patreon that teaches you to find your own style, which I personally am super excited to start! Their recent One Room Challenge reveals made my jaw drop and I immediately wanted to implement certain elements into our fixer and home.

3. Trial and Error.

Okay so this one is a must. I did a lot of this. And you can probably already tell that I married a saint, who put up wallpaper and then allowed me to take it down a few months later.

I’m not saying go and buying a bunch of furniture to return. But do take risks! See what it is that you love about the images you saved or the influencers you follow. See if you can start to mimic that same style. You know how they say fake it till you make it? Yeah I totally just copied people I loved and before I knew it, I figured out what it was I loved without having to copy someone else. Buy that vintage art at the yard sale and hang it up! Do you like it? Or is it better in the other room? If you love that floral chair and haven’t been able to stop thinking about it for days, then BUY IT! Put it in your space and try to make it work. If you don’t like it, return or sell it. But you wont know if you like it until you try it! Keep on experimenting until you get that fluttery feeling when you walk into a space.

4. Go with what makes your heart flutter!

I think that it is so important to remember that your home is yours and your families. Do what makes you and your family happy. It’s the house YOU have to live in after all.

I hope you found this helpful! And thank you from the bottom of my heart for stopping by!

Much love,